Alright guys, no bullshit answers. This topic might not sound serious to you guys, but I am just being honest.

Ok, so this dude (who is "bisexual") is in my group for a class I am in. So you know, I introduce myself to the other people in my group we exchange info, whatever. So anyway, this dude for whatever reason, decides to talk about his issues to me when I barely know him. Things like how he always struggled with his sexuality, asking me questions on my thoughts on gay marriage and what have you.

So here I am listening to his issues, and I honestly do not have much to say. I am usually straight up with stuff, I say "Just handle your shit and worry about YOU and you will be fine" sort of thing. I don't know if it is good advice, but this guy decides to just call me whenever he fucking feels like it. Just to talk and ask for more advice on what he should. Now, at first I didn't mind this. But then he started to get even more personal and started to vent his personal dealings with his family and his bullying as a kid and I am thinking "Dude, I barely fucking know you. Why talk to me?".

Then thing started to get a little weird. Sending me texts about weird gossip between other friends, here is an example:



Now, I have no problem with gay people (a close friend of mine is gay and I knew him since I was 5 or so) but this shit kinda went out left field. Like really, why the fuck do I care about them? I didn't respond to this. He later decides to sent of picture of himself with hearts all around it and ask me my opinion of it. I told him in person: "Dude, I don't know what to say. I have no opinion. I deleted it right away though". And he just responds with a "oh ok"

As a test, I decided to not talk to him at all during one class. This dude got all pissy at me, thought I was angry at him. I am like "Why would I be mad?" and he said "I don't knoooow". Bah whatever. For the past few weeks, he just decides to call me at random times and I told him some BS that I had only a little bit of minutes. But he still insists on calling just to tell me shit that I honestly do not give two fucks about. I want him to chill out and leave me alone.

TLDR Version: Gay/Bisexual dude from my class keeps trying to talk to me when I don't want to talk to him. No problem with him as a person, but he is annoying as all hell. I don't want to be an asshole about it, but I tend to come off as one. How do I get him to stop bugging me?

You gotta just straight up tell him. Doesn't matter if you come across as an asshole. If he takes it that way, that's his problem.

Can't tell you what to say, but if I were as annoyed as you seem to be I'd probably be a bit jerky with something along the lines of "Dude, I'm an acquaintance of yours, not your therapist or a gossip buddy."

Probably not what you'd wanna shoot for personally though, although you'll have to be straight up and direct to get the point across.

What HGW said.
Try to sugarcoat it too much and you'll end up not conveying what you mean, i.e., "I just don't know if I'm the one you should be talking about this to" VS "You're coming on entirely too strong and it's making me pretty uncomfortable. We're acquaintances, not best friends, find someone else to spill your gossip to."
Gotta be blunt and honest, which doesn't necessarily mean you have to be a prick.

politely say this

He sounds like the kind of person that has no friends and attaches to the first person that talks to him. He's a little old for that, I haven't seen anyone act like that since I was in middle school.

I would just stop talking to him. If he gets pissed, he gets pissed. It's not going to have any effect on you.

HGW beat us all to the best answer.

What HGW said, basically. Tell him that you guys barely know each other, and that he is coming on way too strong.

Having read your post and having a little experience with a very enthusiastic ( a little overbearing) person it could be that he has some form of autism (Aspergers it sounds like) let him down gently and let him know your boundaries and he needs to respect that.

Tim?

Or me.

Thanks for the input guys.

Im going to class today, hopefully he wont flip out.

Obviously realise that each case is different but this guy sounds way too sociable for it to be autism/aspergers. I can be like that occasionally, talking about shit that people don't care about for far too long, but its only once I know for a fact that Im actually friends with them that I can get like that. Guy seems way too upfront to be autistic.


(I'm autistic, if you didn't know, not self diagnosed or Internet diagnoses but psychologically evaluated at a university and then diagnosed.)

Carl? Really you can tell the guy to back off, but maybe should have mentioned it before the marriage/kids thing.

As for the dude Sugafree, just say you don't feel comfortable talking about these things. Or try and get him out in a group. Sounds like he could use people to talk to and he may find someone more receptive to latch on too.

I been ducking this guy. He hasn't been pestering me as much.

I had to tell a friend of mine from class this shit; she thinks that this dude is in love with me. A few days ago he actually texted me, called me "Joshy-poo". I told him to never call me that again. He apparently thought it was some sort of joke and responded "man u hurt my feelings yesterday... it seriously tore into me like a knife in my hurt lol"

At this point, I just fucking said straight up: Not my problem, just stop.

And it ceased there. Hopefully this dude stop bugging me. Dude asked me to add him on Facebook, I ain't doing that.